I had been having a lot of trouble naming my characters. Keep up the good work! Armond on 17 Aug at
After the popularity of this original post, I wrote a follow-up, specifically for those who are married and parenting in the trenches of trauma.
If you find this original post beneficial, you will probably want to read the follow-up as well. You can find that by clicking HERE.
If you are wanting to lecture, chastise, or empty your emotional trauma here and you are NOT an adoptive parent in the trenches, your comments will be deleted.
There are countless other forums and blogs for you to do that in. Thank you for respecting that boundary, heidi Preface: This is not a how-to-parent-older-adopted-kids blog post.
This is not a why-kids-of-trauma-inflict-trauma post. This is not even a this-is-what-life-is-like-with-trauma-kids post. This is not a feel-sorry-for-us or toot-our-own-horns post.
However, I want to stress that—no matter how hard adoption can be or sometimes is, I still believe in it. So this is not an anti-adoption post. On the contrary, this is a RALLY CRY for those adoptive parents in the trenches answering the call that others refuse to hear, being judged, shunned, and persecuted for their already very lonely and difficult road.
This is a no-holds-barred, bare-it-all solidarity-seeking attempt. This is for you, adoptive parents of trauma kids, because you are most definitely NOT alone. And probably not going to edit a whole lot.
There is not a week that goes by that I do not receive multiple emails, phone calls, Facebook messages, or texts either from someone currently in the trenches or someone who knows someone who is. Because the truth is, as you all know, that unless you have lived it, you will probably never get it.
To say yes to a call from God that no one else wants to hear or acknowledge. To take in a child of trauma. You are depressed because darkness and strife have taken over your previously semi-docile home.
You are scared because you never know what the day will hold—violent threats? Waiting for the shoe to drop. Because it always, most definitely does.
You feel like a neglectful parent because you see your other kids withering away, living in their own fear, sadness, trauma. And all because you said YES. And you fear that those who stick around are susceptible to departure when the going keeps getting tougher than tough.
Your co-workers have no clue. Or the worst, to flat out accuse you of totally sucking as a parent. Because all they see is the charm. The public display of model behavior.
Youth group workers gush over how precious she is. But no one seems to care or notice that life at home with them is sheer hell. They completely judge you.
And those of us who get it would all agree that reaching out for help often hurts worse. Forget the fact that your other kids are perfectly decent, kind individuals most of the time.
Forget that you used to be esteemed as a wonderful parent. Forget that you used to actually teach classes on parenting and adoption and the like. Forget that people loved you and lauded you before.
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